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Ruby Tom

Ruby Tom

Ruby Tom

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A bold and fearless woman

Jui Chiung Tom, known to friends and family as Ruby, passed away peacefully on October 16 at the Quarry Hill retirement home in Camden, Maine. She was 85. A native of Kunming, China, she came to the U.S. as a foreign student. She was the first Chinese coed to ever attend Arkansas College, where her American classmates dubbed her "Ruby" because they found her Chinese name impossible to pronounce. She planned to return to China, but the Chinese Revolution cut off her hopes of going home. From afar, through an exchange of carefully worded letters, she learned of the hardships suffered by her parents, whose large estate in Kunming was confiscated by the government. She never saw her parents again.

After her marriage to Ernest B. Tom, Ruby settled in San Diego, where her difficulties as an immigrant inspired her to help other Chinese immigrants. Even while busily raising two children, she managed to earn a Master's degree in Social Services at San Diego State University. In 1972 she co-founded the Chinese Social Service Center, now known as the San Diego Chinese Center. 39 years later, the organization she created continues to provide social services and cultural programs for the San Diego community.

With the re-opening of China to tourists, Ruby was finally able to visit her homeland several times, and she was delighted to meet nieces she'd never seen. A fearless traveler, she often made bold and surprising choices in life -- including a decision to get divorced after 32 years of marriage and live by her own rules. After moving to Maine in 2008, she settled in at Quarry Hill, where the extraordinary and compassionate care of the nursing staff eased her final days.

She is survived by her daughter, novelist Terry (Tess) Gerritsen of Camden, Maine, her son Dr. Timothy Tom, an anesthesiologist in Corpus Christi, Texas, and her grandsons Adam and Joshua Gerritsen, and Christopher Tom. In lieu of flowers, the family would deeply appreciate donations to the American Heart Association (http://honor.americanheart.org/goto/Ruby.Tom), which has a memorial web page for her.

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Armin Müller
Mon, Jul 01, 2013
Sorry, I forgot
Germany

Armin Müller
Mon, Jul 01, 2013
Hi Tess!
Thank you for your wonderful books
All the best, Armin

Kelli Meyer
Tue, Nov 01, 2011
Our sympathy and thoughts go out to all of Ms. Tom's family. My mother, Micki Dumke, has been blessed to know Tess and I know that Tess is who she is because of her Mother. The world has definitely lost a good person, but she touched many (and still does). May her memory live forever in your hearts.


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